What if someone very close to you was on the fast track toward death, perhaps through illness, perhaps with a sudden illness, or perhaps they were just falling off in old age. What would you do? What can anyone do when all else has failed, and the end is near?
Nobody gets out of here alive! It is a fact. We all are going to die
one day or another. And as uncomfortable fact is, must be pre
compared for this day to come, either sooner or later.
What if you had a terrible accident in a permanent vegetative state?
Would your family know your wishes, or they would be left arguing
the loose shell party that once housed up, man? It has happened before, as we were all pathologically fascinated watching the fate of a young woman in Florida, to know who would win this last battle of her life: parents or husband.
Granted, this was the most difficult situations that the average person will not have to decide, but still, the discussion of end of life issues is
The Hospice patients volunteer for many years, I have witnessed the end of
issues of life with many people. I consider it a special gift to be
incorporated into a person’s life in the most sensitive and effective time,
administration to be present on the edge crosses. I am also a Reiki
expert, which is a form of hands-on healing that channels chi, or
life force energy in my patients. I have used this in many cases
to facilitate the process of death, creating a protective, quiet environment
Although all deaths are not what could be considered a “good death” I
was fortunate enough to assist at the bedside of patients who died good
death, family members present, the pain managed to a level of endurance and
attitude approval inevitable.
No one wants to die.
Even patients who are medicated with large morphine or other narcotics are aware of their surroundings, be hearing the last impression that
dies. One should approach the deathbed with a sense of quiet reverence, as if the child was sleeping in a crib. When you are preparing to leave this earth,
their senses are enhanced by the feel of the energy in the room, the smell,
and sound. These are the last input into their body in this life.
As people get closer to their final departure, the curtain that separates the “real”
world and the spiritual world will be lighter and more transparent. I
had patients tell me about dead relatives and angels visit them in their
tunnel, waiting for their transition. It gives great comfort to know that it is not
only family members on one side looking over them, but others of
spirit side are also watching over them.
Most people have gone of their food in recent days. their breathing will become what is called a “death rattle” … a heavy labored breathing. If they
are able to some patients curl into a fetal position on the right side, called the “sleeping lion” position, which will help the spirit to exit through the top of their head.
Patients respond, even under the cloud of drugs, to touch. limbs will feel cold, as if the withdrawal has already begun to pull out his life force in the middle of their bodies.
I visited once father friend as he lay dying in the hospital. While he was seemingly asleep, the nurse was trying unsuccessfully to draw blood, but not to
extract enough blood due to lack of blood pressure. He was fidgety and uncomfortable as she poked and prodded his arm. I sat quietly down beside him, and put his hands on his head, the flow of energy immediately began to move him. He turned to me, trying to talk, but only moaned and effects of morphine were too strong to defeat. I thought he knew I was there to help and did not want any more treatment from nurse. I asked the nurse to stop poking him with needles while I worked on it, she was kind enough to do. The meeting lasted about an hour and a half. At the time, it left an uneasy state of extreme restlessness to fall into a peaceful slumber. I was a few more hours, watching him sleep, keep your hand.
Finally, I went to the hospital, but said the family I would return first thing in the morning, to check on him. There was no need. I was called for 8 with news that he had passed very peacefully at 6:30 Apparently, one son had sat up with him all night, and when the son got up to use the bathroom, his father died breath. So familiar is the son of the room that he did not want to have his son see him die. Not an uncommon thing,
on the way, that parents protect their children until the end.
People die the way they live.
I’ve been witness to people suffering from end-stage cancer and ALS have been adamant about not taking painkillers. These brave and special patients felt that they would be coherent and make up to
moment their final departure. While this choice seems incomprehensible to most, I was truly amazed by their ability to be true to their ideals. It is probably as difficult to support a person close to you but to observe this
process, the desire of a dying man to keep control of their situation is one of the last condition. And who are we to set a standard for the end of their life? Crossing over is extremely unique process, not unlike being born into the world.
With great advances in medical technology today, we are blessed to be the recipients of the covered lives. However, we’d be wise to talk to our loved ones long as we are ready to go to prolong our lives … what is the quality of life going to be, both for ourselves and those committed to our care. Most do not pay be hooked up with many tubes in hospital
Room, but prefer to die at home, in their own familiar environment.
Death is not an end but a means. It is not the failure to survive, the doorway to the spiritual realm. Often, death is the end of suffering and individual relief for those who take care of them.
I used to believe that diseases like cancer that can rob the body of life
were terrible fate. I have been witness to the gift of time that cancer can give
her patients: time to make amends, time to put things right, time to spend together, the final time where each moment feels. It is a good time well spent that will carry the survivors to grieve days.
We all have only so many days here on earth to live our lives. If we could only realize how fast that time slips away, we may live more joy-filled life for
precious moments of togetherness.
Life is short, be happy.
Difficult as it is to be a manager of a loved one on the verge of departure, it is
final act of love and compassion. The simple act of being there, keep
A hand is really all that is needed.
Source by Nancy Nylen